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Your Personality Might Be the Reason You Can’t Sleep

personality and sleep

Why Your Personality Keeps You Awake at 3 AM

(And How 15 Minutes Can Fix It)

its 3:47 am and I'm writing about sleep. The irony isn't lost on me

So apparently your personality type determines whether you sleep like a normal person or lie awake cataloging every awkward interaction from 2019. I learned this after my 900th sleepless night when I finally googled "why can't i fucking sleep" at 4:12 AM

Mind Hack Lab has this thing about Rest & Recovery being an actual skill?? Like you can learn it?? In 15 minutes??? I was skeptical but also desperate so

OK so there are 3 types of bad sleepers apparently

Type 1: The Ruminator

This is me. Brain turns on the second my head hits the pillow. Suddenly need to solve every problem that doesn't exist. Remember that email I sent with a typo? My brain does. At 2 AM. Every night.

Last week I literally spent 2 hours mentally defending my career choices to my high school guidance counselor. She retired 10 years ago. Why is my brain like this

Type 2: The Controller

These people have spreadsheets for their sleep. SPREADSHEETS. My coworker tracks his REM cycles and gets genuinely upset when his "sleep efficiency" drops below 85%

He has blackout curtains that cost more than my rent. Still can't sleep. Because turns out when you turn sleep into another KPI, you're gonna fail your performance review every night

Type 3: The Avoider

You know when you're exhausted all day but suddenly at 10 PM you're WIDE AWAKE and reorganizing your entire phone? That's this type. It's called revenge bedtime procrastination which sounds way cooler than it is

these people aren't night owls they're just avoiding the vulnerability of trying to sleep and potentially failing. I get it. I spent 3 hours watching tiny cooking videos last night. They made a pizza the size of a quarter. Why did I watch it 4 times

The weird train thing that actually works

So Mind Hack Lab taught me this technique where your thoughts are trains and you're standing on the platform and you just... let them go by? Without getting on them?

I know how it sounds. But it works like 70% of the time. The other 30% I end up thinking about Thomas the Tank Engine which. Is not helpful. But whatever

For the spreadsheet people (controllers) they have this "good enough" protocol which is basically accepting that 6 hours of meh sleep is better than 0 hours of tracking your sleep failure

Avoiders get this "one tiny thing" approach. Pick ONE bedtime signal. My friend says goodnight to her phone. That's it. That's the whole routine. Mine is

actually I don't have one yet I'm still in the watching-tiny-cooking phase of my life

The thing is, 66% of us are burnt out and regular sleep advice assumes we're robots. "Just stop worrying!" Oh cool let me find my OFF switch real quick

Mind Hack Lab gets that these are personality things. Not character flaws. The 15 minute session figures out which type of disaster you are and gives you tools that actually work with your specific brain chaos

Does it work perfectly? No. Last Tuesday I still spent an hour planning a conversation I'll never have. But MOST nights I sleep now. Like an actual semi-normal person.

Which is weird to type at 4:23 AM but here we are

Look if you're reading this at 3 AM you already know everything I'm saying. Your personality isn't broken. You just need different tools than those mythical "good sleepers" who don't exist anyway

Start Your Free Session →

This is skills training not medical treatment btw. But you knew that

ps - I just remembered I have a 9 AM meeting. Fuck.

Life Skills - Emotional Intelligence - Soft Skills

The Mind Hack Lab Framework (Yeah, There's Actually a Method to This)

Look, I get it. Another framework. Another system. But here's the thing — these 10 pillars? They're literally everything that's been kicking my ass for years, organized into something that actually makes sense.

Thirty minutes to stop the spiral. Thirty days to start the fix. Stick around longer to master it.

So I discovered something at 3 AM last Tuesday. Every single panic spiral, every frozen presentation moment, every "why can't I just DO THE THING" — it all fits into one of these 10 categories. And apparently LinkedIn says these are the exact skills that get people promoted? Wild.

The kicker: We use AI coaches exclusively. No awkward video calls with Brad the life coach at 7 AM. Just you, your brain, and an AI that remembers your specific flavor of panic without making it weird.

OK So Here's What Nobody Tells You

Every single one of these skills? They're all connected. Fix your sleep, suddenly you can focus. Manage stress, confidence goes up. It's like your brain has been playing life on hard mode and someone finally showed you the settings menu.

The Emotional Intelligence Part

  • Finally understanding WTF you're feeling
  • Not letting emotions hijack your whole day
  • Reading rooms without being creepy
  • Navigating office politics like an adult

The Career ROI Part

  • Showing up consistently (bare minimum, still counts)
  • Speaking without your voice shaking
  • Being the calm one when shit hits fan
  • Actually collaborating (not just cc'ing)

The Science-y Part

  • Your patterns aren't your personality
  • Interrupting spirals before they start
  • Techniques based on actual research
  • Building new neural pathways (sounds fake but isn't)

Real talk: McKinsey says improving well-being could unlock $11.7T in value. For you? That means more energy, better focus, and being the one who gets tapped for opportunities while everyone else is burning out.

The AI coach doesn't judge when you practice the same anxiety technique 47 times at 3 AM. No awkward "how does that make you feel" conversations. Just you, figuring out how to stop self-sabotaging, one 30-minute session at a time.

Pick Your Biggest Problem & Start Fixing It

Thirty minutes to stop the spiral. Thirty days to start the fix. Stick around longer to master it.